How to Keep a Positive Mindset. The Power of Perspective
Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining
Remember the first time you had your heart broken a long time ago? Do you remember how it felt like your world had just collapsed? How about when you didn’t get that job you wanted so badly? Or when someone told you that you weren’t good enough. Think about any terrible disappointing moment in your life 5 - 10 years ago… and how you barely remember it today. As humans, our wounds eventually heal, and we move on and carry on with our lives.
Disappointment, heartbreak, challenges and negativity can be used as fuel to ignite a fire that could get the best out of you.
In Michael Jordan’s documentary, ‘‘The Last Dance’’, his dad says. ‘’ If you want to get the best out of Michael, tell him that he can’t do something. He will do whatever it takes to prove you wrong because there’s no better revenge than the taste of victory’’. Throughout Michael’s career, he became notorious for this. Players would be scared to talk trash to Mike. If The Bulls were losing and a player talked trash to Mike, it was like a switch that would set off Mike waking up some deeper inner strength to turn the game around to get the win.
In my first year as an agent, I was bullied by another agent who recruited me to work with him. After about a month or so, we went our separate ways. But the last thing he did was to make fun of me and tell me that we lost a listing because I was new and that I wasn’t good enough to make it on my own…I proved him wrong and went and got that listing by myself. That was my switch… That’s what I needed to set me off…
The average new agent sells 1-3 homes in their first 1-2 years. In the next following 12 months, I went and sold 9 homes reaching $5.6 million in sales, placing me 3 homes away from top producer status among agents who have been in the business for 5-10 years.
MJ said. ‘’Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen’’
Take a deep breath and challenge yourself to compartmentalize all the negativity out of your head. If you’ve made some mistakes, don’t beat yourself up about it. Forgive yourself. Making mistakes is part of the process of success. The worst thing that you can do is quit or be too scared to try and let 5 - 10 years pass and live with regrets telling yourself ‘’I should have done that’. Embrace your mistakes and failures and learn from them.
Are you failing at something right now? Ask yourself. “How badly do I want to succeed?”. Understand that it’s not supposed to be easy. The problem is that many people break under pressure and aren’t willing to compromise and do what it takes to achieve their goals. Think about challenges simply as speed bumps on your road to success. Commit to your goals, stay strong, and you will succeed.
We’re only humans and it’s normal to feel shitty sometimes. But make the habit of reminding yourself that tomorrow is a new day and that life is too short. There is no time to waste being negative and feeling sorry for yourself. Be grateful for being alive and healthy and for having friends and family. During those difficult times, remember to appreciate all the good things that you do have and how awesome your life actually is.
A strong positive mindset is built little by little until your head is constantly filled with positivity and optimism so when shit hits the fan… You can take a deep breath and say to yourself. ‘‘It’s okay. I got this. Everything is going to be okay’’. If you’re going through something right now… Pause and give this a try. I am with you. Repeat with me. ‘‘Everything is going to be okay’’.
Live your life as if today was your very last day on earth. How would you want to spend those last precious hours?